Friday, April 4, 2014

Why care?

I always wonder, what if one day I crashed my car and i was about to die. Would i regret what i have done so far? As we get older, we always devote most of our time into works. We are young and ambitious, we wanna get rich as soon as possible. We want to earn as much money as we can and enjoy the rest of our lives. As such, we neglect a lot of things, ie. not spending enough time with families, not enjoying life more and not fulfilling their dreams. As we get older these regrets multiply rather than fade away into the memory. The closer we get to death, the clearer we see. The clarity of thought about our lives.We all have something stored in our memory banks of the past that we wish we could have done differently.

People always say life is short. I had never been convinced of that as i always told myself that, "oh no way, i am still young and i have long way to go man!". Then only i came to realise life is so short after experienced a childhood friend who i had  known for 20 years since kindergarten, passed away in a car crash.  It was 5 years ago, i was at my 1st year in my university. I still remember clearly what happened that morning when i received the news, as it was a day after my brother's birthday. I received a call from my hometown friend, you know it is kinda weird when you moved out the town after high school, and you seldom talk to your high school mates anymore. You know something is wrong when they call you out of sudden. And...Yes, this time is very wrong. At first, i thought she was joking, and i asked her..."this is not april fool joke right?" And no way, it was August! My mind just went blank. I put down the phone, and recalled that.. we just partied together few weeks back!! 

I didn't manage to say goodbye to him and didn't even manage to attend for his funeral.The Chinese funeral tradition is like this, parents may not perform funeral planning for their child, so an unmarried person is taken to a funeral home upon death. Chinese rules say that an older person must not show formal respect to a younger person. A child is therefore buried in silence and no funeral ceremonies are performed. Nonetheless, the parents did perform a simple funeral for him. 

People come, people go. Some come back and some never. No matter what, they will drift in and out of your life, almost like characters in your favourite book. When you finally close the cover, the characters have told their story and you start up again with another book, complete with new characters and adventures. 

After few years, some of my friends and acquaintances also passed away in different circumstances. Some got murdered and some died in car crash. You just realise that... life is too short. You will never know what is gonna happen next. Now, I always tell myself that live life with no regrets. Do whatever i want to do, eat whatever i want to eat and go wherever i want to go. Just go and do it, no restrictions, no questions, no preservation, no holding back, not giving in. Laugh as much as i can, travel as much as i want. Make it interesting and be content with your life, because you only live once! Why care about what people say?

Yesss...why care!

Don't ever look back!!

It is too short to care about what others think of you. The greatest thing you will ever learn is to appreciate and love.

So live your life the way you want to, be happy, be strong, be yourself not caring what people think. 

Alane Neo